Selecting an Officiant – Not a Last Minute Task

The ceremony is the central event in all the happiness and celebration surrounding a wedding.  Your celebrant needs to be a qualified professional who can provide an exceptional, joyous, personal and memorable experience for everyone.  Wedding officiants are not “cookie cutter.”  There can be significant differences in style, presentation, warmth, joy, love, comfort, charisma, appearance and energy.

I perform wedding ceremonies because of the joy of sharing, beauty, wisdom and spirit on the most special day of your life!  This magnificent experience, your happiness and satisfaction are paramount.  It is more than a labor of love.  It is a sacred trust and the ultimate honor.  Conducting your wedding ceremony is my humble, unique way of making the world a little bit more beautiful, two special people at a time!

Take a Breath – The Vows Won’t Kill You !

The language of marriage vows has varied over the years as much as the two people exchanging them.  Every religion, culture and country has different wedding vows and traditions and every couple wants a ceremony that is uniquely theirs.  Although many couples are becoming more comfortable in expressing their undying love to the world, others are more reserved or may simply prefer the time-honored language of traditional vows.  The key things a couple should keep in mind are the tone they would like to set, the mood they want to convey and, most important, the style that fits them best.  Whether the vows are traditional, nontraditional or something special they have written themselves, these are words that are meant to last a lifetime.  I’m always ready to assist my couples with this task.

Other Services to Consider

Other Services Offered Include:

Baby Naming Ceremonies

A naming day is a symbolic celebration that requires no licenses and has no legalities.  A naming ceremony can take any format that you choose. It can be a simple welcome to the world, a formal naming of your child, or a blessing for your baby and family. It is also a time for you to make certain promises and commitments to your child, and for other important people in your child’s life to give well wishes, and pledge their support.

Funerals and Celebration of Life Services

I work directly with the families of the deceased to provide a custom service that truly honors the life of your loved one and also supports family and friends through the grieving process.

Home and Family Blessings

Couples who are blending families and bringing children together under one roof as a result of their marriage have a special challenge of making everyone feel accepted and included. I assist all members of the family through a home and family blessing ceremony so each family member fees part of the union. Having a ceremony in the home that includes everyone is a wonderful way to honor the new family that has been created.

Commitment Ceremonies

For couples who legally cannot wed, couples who have been previously married on paper but want a public ceremony, or for couples who do not chose to have a legally binding marriage, a commitment ceremony is a wonderful option. The ceremony is given the same attention to detail as the traditional wedding ceremony. I follow all of the same practices listed under officiant services. The only difference is that there is no legal paperwork.

Vow Renewal

Simply put, a vow renewal is a way to celebrate your marriage. Perhaps you’ve made it to 2, 5, 10, 25 or 50 years together and you want the world to know you’d do it all over again in a heartbeat. Maybe you want to reaffirm your commitment to each other after a rough period in your relationship. There’s no wrong reason to renew.

The Importance of Being Present

One of the most important elements in any wedding ceremony is whether the couple are mentally, emotionally and spiritually present on their special day.  Quite often, people allow excessive nervousness to get in the way of being truly present at their own ceremonies.  They are there physically, but distracted by their own nervousness or by other details of the day.  As your wedding day approaches, try to include ways to relieve stress and experience this wonderful moment fully…don’t worry about the big things, since everything seems BIG on your wedding day!  You’ve hired competent people you trust to do their jobs.  Let them do their jobs.  Then be confident that they will do a good job, including handling any snags.

I like to think that I conduct weddings rather than perform them and work with the people you’ve hired.  You can simply be present for one another for the half hour or so that it takes to be married on your special day!

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While any wedding officiant can perform the task of getting you married, a more confident and experienced officiant will make that process feel easier, more comfortable and you’ll have fewer issues during the process.  The voice of your officiant can go a long way to helping you feel comfortable and ease your nerves on your wedding day.  Some of this is really just your gut feeling that this is the right officiant for you.

So, if you feel a connection with a particular officiant, let that weigh into your final decision!  An officiant who cares about your entire wedding experience will strive to make everything leading up to the ceremony as simple and smooth as possible, so the focus of the moment and the ceremony is pure joy, love and beauty.

Planning, Options and Choices – Oh My!

Your perfect officiant should be able to offer you many options when planning your ceremony. You don’t want them to perform the exact same ceremony that they have at hundreds of other weddings. Every couple is unique and deserves to have a unique ceremony.  Make sure your officiant is open to making changes and giving you options for different types of vows, readings and ring exchanges.

At the end of the day, you should feel like your wedding officiant is a member of your team who really “gets you.”  If you’re a funny, quirky couple, your officiant should be able to incorporate that into your ceremony. Your wedding officiant should be able to represent you as a couple so well that guests might wonder if the officiant has known you your entire lives. When you choose this officiant, you should feel 100% confident not that they will just “get the job done” but that they will create an amazing ceremony that’s perfect just for you.

Personal Reflections

It is my commitment to make you feel as comfortable, relaxed and present as possible. What’s important is you – your experience.  I do everything I can to diffuse any anxiety and nervousness, so typically, by the time you get to your vows, you are comfortable and present and not feeling worried at all.

Presiding over your ceremony has nothing to do with me.  It has everything to do with you, your love, your families and friends.  I am merely a vessel, a vehicle for your love.  So, I get myself out of the way and let those greater forces take over.  With those powers at work, what enters in is a grace, an ease and a depth of emotion which is felt by everyone, including me!

Feedback over the years has affirmed again and again that couples and guests feel fabulous after your ceremony and go into your reception uplifted, inspired, relaxed and moved.  It starts your party off on a very high note. It just gets better from there!

When any of us can comfortably speak in public with love pouring through our veins generating even more love in our midst, we are blessed.  For me, it’s all because of you and the power of your love.

The Ceremony Tells The Story

Conducting and attending ceremonies are key to the human experience. Family and friends gather to congratulate and support the “honorees.”  We celebrate and bond during life’s greatest moments.  Your wedding ceremony is the climax, the crescendo, of a lengthy planning process! The day has come, everything is in position! Venue.  Flowers.  Cake.  Apparel.  Your guests are seated.  Your moment has arrived.  Now what?  What sort of mood do you want?  Something tiresome?  Something festive?  What tone of voice do you want to hear?  Monotone & parched, or engaging and humorous?  How do you want your guests to feel?  Indifferent or enthused? Height.  Width.  Depth.  Your ceremony deserves dimension. Your wedding tells a story.  Where you have been.  Who you are.  What your future holds.

Are Marriage Ceremonies Needed?

You don’t have to have a ceremony to have a marriage. When you think about it, the whole thing is kind of weird, right? You’re standing “up there” looking fancy, holding flowers and being stared at by pretty much everyone who has meant anything to you in the past twenty-something years! So why do it?

The marriage ceremony has been an important feature across nearly every culture, religion, generation, and society. We have thousands of important moments that happen throughout our lives, but this one is regarded as one so critical, we acknowledge its special status by sharing it with others. Why this moment?  Because despite all of our differences, love is what we all share. It’s the great unifier — our one universal truth. No matter who we are, where we’ve come from, what we believe, we know this one thing — love is what we’re doing right.  We have all loved in our lifetimes, and in this moment, we’re reminded that the ability to love is the very best part of our humanity.

All of us have our own love stories. Some are short, others long. Some are yet unwritten, while others are just getting to the good part. There are chapters in all of our stories that are sad or disappointing.

…And that brings us back to the ceremony.  It’s a time to pause, look back, and smile at all the moments that brought you there and a time to look ahead at all the moments that are still to come!

Renewing Your Love

A lifetime commitment enables two people to share their desires, talents, dreams, and memories.  It provides the encouragement to risk more . . . and thus to gain more.  It involves facing together whatever promising challenge or adversity that may arise.

Sometimes couples want to celebrate the love they have for each other by having a vow renewal ceremony.  How special for a couple to celebrate their journey together as they continue to look towards the future by reaffirming the vows they made to each other on their wedding day!

Renewing wedding vows can be a meaningful, touching, rejuvenating ceremony for you and your children, family and friends.  As a married couple, it is a time to pause and reflect on where you have been and where you are going.  It is also a wonderful example to set for your children and grandchildren as they watch their parents join hands and hearts and affirm the magnitude and strength of their enduring love.  What a great life/love lesson!

Wedding vow renewal ceremonies can be as creative and personal as you want them to be.  I would love to help you create the ceremony of your dreams.